People say that online dating is a lot much easier than any other traditional forms, particularly because it implies a lot more comfort and fewer obligations. However, not everyone anticipates that making a good impression on the internet is a lot trickier.
Researchers claim that a person only requires 60 seconds in order to decide whether someone is attractive or not, on a face to face meeting – looks, voice and body language are all taken into consideration. But on a dating website, when you are probably too suspicious to give each other access on webcams and all you have is a photo, one needs just a few seconds to analyze your looks.
To make things even more challenging, linguists discovered that from all the information we exchange, the least that we perceive, meaning only 7%, comes from writing. Everything else is about voice tone and body signals.
All these considered a first online dating definitely helps us feel less terrified, only that it also makes things a lot more challenging. Our only weapons are, under these circumstances, what we write.
Breaking the ice with a different approach is very important. You could try to begin your first conversation like you are continuing one – “As I was telling you last time we spoke…” or ask a few tricky questions. Have your partner tell you the story of how his name was chosen, which of his traits are particularly teased by friends or whether there are any secrets caring to share with you.
And whatever you do, try to be funny, not ridiculous – everyone loves someone that makes them laugh. As long as you make everything you can to step out of the crowd, you can always make a first good impression.