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The Impact Of Age Difference In Relationships

admin — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 10:37:20 +0000

The Impact Of Age Difference In Relationships

Age differences in dating

In life, we all need someone to love and be with. We all need someone that we can share things with, someone who will love us back and accept us for who and what we are. Sometimes, the person that you meet may not be in the same league as you in terms of age, you may be significantly younger than them or you may be significantly older than them. What we do know for sure is that some relationships of this nature have lasted, but there are definitely some lessons to be learned from that.
In relationships where the two people are apart in their ages by 10 years and over, they may have issues with the different interests that they have individually. If you are dating someone much younger than you, you may notice that you might not have the same zeal that they have when it comes to going out and having fun. You might prefer to be home, and they may want to be out there socializing, because everyone needs that experience. If you find that they are home a lot, because you are choosing to be home, it is almost like they are being robbed of that experience. In later years they may regret having not been out there enough.
If you find that you are going with them to wherever they want to hang out, you will notice that you might be a bit bored because it will feel like doing what you have done already, all over again.
A couple can always reach some sort of compromise though, where both parties get to do what they want. They can also include each other in doing the things that they enjoy, and in the end, they will all be able to be themselves while they spend time with each other.
In a situation where the age gap is so great and they fail to come to a compromise about the situation, this will definitely put strain in the marriage. Women tend to mature faster than men, and in a union that is based not purely on age but on their goals and maturity levels, that union has a better chance to survive.
Sex can also pose challenges in a union that has a huge age gap. It is a well known fact that men are social beings, more so than the women. If a very young man gets involved with an older woman whose hormones are all over the place and there are issues with menopause, that relationship could run into sexual problems, because the guy wants to have sex a whole lot and the woman is quite happy to have it now and again.
Unions where the age gap is vast have been attempted and some people have had a lot of success with them. Older people are normally more accomplished, and the younger people who get involved with them know what they are getting into. They can work, even though you will be adding more issues than those that a “normal” relationship brings to the table. As long as the maturity levels of both parties are around the same level, these unions can work.

Reaching New Heights at a Distance

admin — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 15:29:06 +0000

Long distance relationships can be an amazing a worthwhile experience. Many people are turned off by the idea of having the person that you are romantically linked to so far away. There are three main components of any relationship; physical, emotional and spiritual. The majority of relationships that you see on the streets are physical. Some reach emotional levels but the intensity of the emotion is minimal compared to that of a long distance relationship. The spiritual level is usually attained by a strong coming together of the physical and emotional components.

The reason why many “regular’ relationships do not go onto a real emotional level is because these people have the physical component to rely on. Communication can be lackluster since when the two of you are bored, you can use your physical proximity to fill in the awkward silence. It is precisely due to this physical dependency that most partners do not open up. As soon as a situation gets a little sticky, the bedroom seems like a good place to make your partner forget the question he/she asked.

Those who are in a long distance relationship know that being creative and communicating is u best way to keep a relationship alive. You know that make up sex isn’t even on the radar so opening up and creating lines of communication in order to avoid fights is the best answer. During these non physical times, you can really see the kind of person with whom you are in a relationship. You can see your partner’s devotion and effort that he/she puts into the relationship.

You will also be able to know your partner better since there is only communication to rely on. Once you form this bond truly on an emotional level, the physical aspect of your partnership will not only be there but it will be enhanced since the last time you saw each other. Creating such an intense emotional bond will allow you to feel your partner on a new and exciting platform that you would not normally achieve without going through a long distance situation. Those relationships that can withstand the distance, can withstand just about anything.

This article was written by Sensei Allison Schleck of Dating Sites and Review

This article was written by Sensei Allison Schleck of

Breaking up a relationship that is not working

admin — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 12:23:59 +0000

Getting into a relationship is not easy, and breaking up is even more difficult. It is often difficult to say the words that you want to without breaking the heart of the other person. However, when such thoughts occur it is a sign that there is something wrong with the relationship and breaking up is the best solution to it to avoid more problems. Breaking up temporarily may be able to let the two of you to work things out.

Before you say those words to the other partner, consider and think carefully about the decision. Are there any solutions other than breaking up? Consider the happy and unhappy moments from your relationship. It is also useful to write down the pros and cons of your relationship. For example, your partner is the ideal partner; caring, loving, independent or rich. But he is a workaholic and he only sees you in the weekend.

The timing for breakups is also important. Try not to do so before the birthdays or before the holidays. It is often more heartbreaking for the partner during such times and you will leave a big impression in him or her. After considering everything, you decide that breaking up is the best and only solution. The first step is to start ignoring the partner.

Avoid answering every call he made and call back at times you know that he is busy or is unable to answer phone calls. As for text messages, do not reply to every one of them. If he asks you out for dinner or movie, make excuses up to decline the offers. After some time of playing hide-and-seek, he might be able to feel that you are avoiding him and might get the hint. He may come up to you and you can explain that you are breaking up with him then.

However, if he did not get the hint, there are steps to follow. First, think of an excuse such as you are not suitable for him or he is too good for you. Avoid using excuses that will leave the partner hurt such as you have been cheating behind him for some time. This will leave respect for the partner and minimizes the pain of heartbreak.

If this does not work, try other ways such as emphasizing that you need the single life. Tell him thing such as you need some space, things are different from where we used to be or that you do not feel for him anymore. These will express your desire to become single again.

After the break off, your ex may still be around trying to win you back or hoping to patch up. It is best not to give him hope by avoiding his calls or texts, even if you bump into him in the public, keep the conversation brief and make excuses to go. Everyone needs time and space to be able to completely get over a relationship.

Lastly, you must move on. Get rid of the guilt or any unhappy feelings that you will be having. You may feel uncomfortable with the sensation of being single. Move on with your life; go out and meet some people.

How To Maintain A Healthy Relationship

admin — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 09:11:48 +0000

It is very important for two people to maintain a healthy relationship, or the relationship is virtually no good. Though, it is often harder done than it is said, and this is evident through stories of bad breakups and such. Nonetheless, if proper measures taken, two can easily maintain a healthy relationship, and evidently be happier as a couple. Below are some things couples can do to work towards maintaining a healthy relationship.

To start off, honesty is very important. If two individuals lie to each other in relationship, things are bound to go for the worst. If you tell the truth, you will gain more trust from the other person in the long run. Though a lie may get you out of a mistake you made once, it is almost sure to get you back in the long run.

Somewhat in correspondence to the previous tip, it is important to keep your word. If you tell your partner you will do something, then you must do it. If you think you are not going to be able to stick with your word, do not make the promise in the first place. Do not tell your partner you will be there for lunch at noon if you know you will not be able to make it then.

In rare cases, partners decide to date another individual, either to fulfill a fantasy or just because they are curious. This is not a bad thing, but you need to be sure you both truly want this. Your partner may say “I’m okay with it” but may not really be okay with it at all. Have a heart to heart talk to ensure that both of you are fine with what is happening. If one does go through with the date, it is important to be open and honest with your partner with how it went. Being honest is important, because if one is not honest, it could possibly lead to an affair.

Take responsibility for any mistakes you make. Do not blame it on your partner, or blame it on others for that matter. Showing your partner that you are willing to take responsibility for what you have done, or contributed to, is important, and will give your partner a good sense in the long run. Blaming others will make you seem like a coward in the eyes of your partner.

If you are partners, act like partners. Not only should you go out together, but take part in activities and household chores together. Do not leave the burden on one person. Cook together, clean together, and so on. Though at first one partner might seem like they do not mind doing all the household chores, they will eventually get fed up. Work as a team, and this is sure to not happen.

Lastly, learn from your mistakes. If you have been in a relationship previously, and you learned something, be sure to apply it to this relationship. If you break up in your current relationship, be sure to remember why it did not work out, and take measures to ensure the same thing that does not happen in your next relationship.