Written communication gives us plenty of time to think the lines, puts less pressure and allows us to check and correct any potential mistakes. You know how to approach someone – being nice and polite, personalizing a message… What you probably do not know yet is that even the most experienced with online dating can make a few particular mistakes. Read on and see which of them are on your list.
No “hello” yet lots of “lol”
This is about your attitude when approaching someone for the first time by using a private e-mail. Some users are so anxious to start the conversation that they forget presenting themselves. For things to be better, they chose a shallow approach with lots of shortcuts that, even though are super-common are not embraced by everyone. In fact, many people hate these shortcuts for the reason that they simply cripple a language. Until you do not know what the person you approach feels about this attitude, you might want to refrain from it.
Let’s share our life stories NOW
Assuming you have successfully overcome your first e-mailing interaction, there is also the risk that you will start sharing too much information, forcing a particular level of intimacy. You may not be rejected, yet dating coaches claim that this can put lots of pressure on both of you. After all, this simply leads to rushing things instead of allowing them to develop naturally.
Offering and waiting for ASAP responds
Maybe you are thrilled about someone, yet what if the feeling is not mutual? Or your interlocutor has a few problems that cancel instant replying? Waiting to receive answers as soon as possible is not recommended, just like providing answers in the same way might make you appear desperate…
Anything familiar to you?