Is Your Online Date Trying To Stood You Up?

Posted on May 5, 2012 by Mihaela

So you’ve met online, exchanged a few private messages, went to chatting and kept chatting till dawn. You felt attraction rising between the two of you. You cannot tell for sure that your online date is into you, but the never-ending virtual socialization tells you something. Is he or she avoiding a real date with you making you feel like you are about to be stood up?

It may be the case, depending on numerous other factors. But while the majority of articles telling you how to make the best in transferring online romances to offline experiences suggest that a reliable person will agree meeting you within the first three weeks of conversations, it does not have to be a rule.

Whenever looking into this problem, there are two main things to consider: your expectations and the ones of your partner. Begin by asking yourself how much you are willing to wait for someone you like and when would be the right moment to give up. Sometimes, you might surprise yourself ready to make an effort and wait even longer if it seems to worth the pain. And then, continue by asking yourself how much time does the other person need in order to take the relationship on a next level.

Of course, you will sound like a stalker with a line close to “So tell me, when exactly you are planning to meet me? Are we talking about days, weeks or months, ‘cause I’m having a full agenda!”. However, you can analyze that person’s profile in detail and try to understand, if you were not already told, for how long he or she has been out of a relationship, how much damage the breakup caused and how much is he or she emotionally available. If your online date is more of a sensitive person, it may take you longer to sell yourself as the best catch and be bought for a coffee.

If the entire above are clear and you are still there chatting, try to make another step by asking a phone number prior to the date. Depending on how fast you receive a positive answer, you can have another clue on whether you are only dealing with someone that takes things slowly or with someone who already stood you up by not having serious intentions.

Finally yet importantly, once you get that phone number and delve into the pleasure of exchanging messages wherever you are without having to sign in on the online dating website, you can suggest a quick date. Just to kill the tension, call it a trial date, for a small coffee at the corner of the street, for a cigarette if both of you smoke or for anything else that involves spending 15 minutes together. Even the shiest persons cannot resist the temptation of meeting someone they like under such circumstances. It helps breaking the ice and it will confirm you whether you need to hang around or move on.

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Would You Date Someone That Makes You Laugh?

Posted on May 4, 2012 by Mihaela

If all that someone does is making you laugh, you will most likely not need to date that person. However, isn’t laughing a starting point for developing most of the social interactions? And if you know how to make one laugh instead of frown, doesn’t that buy you extra time, which you can then use in order to prove your other skills and pleasurable traits?

With other words, being funny will not grant you an online date, but it can successfully set the premises for one to last longer than in other circumstances. Everyone enjoys a good laugh and just like in real life, where people that make the best impressions on parties are those that make the best jokes, internet dating works by the same principles. Looks are a great starting point, knowing how to present yourself in a funny manner and make the other one laugh opens your way and only then you can reveal your assets.

Just as an observation, whenever asked about how a man should be or act on a first date, all women specify, among many others, that they want him to make them laugh. And if this is demanded on a first date, it is sure demanded prior to getting it.

To all those thinking they are not funny enough and they will never be, flash news: the sense of humor is cultivated. Some are born with loads of it, others make loads of efforts to achieve it – the thing is that learning how to make someone laugh is doable.

While there are tons of online resources on how to be humorous, jokes to say on dates, strategies of stealing smiles and so on, it is very important for you to understand what it takes to be a comedian without being a clown. A funny person is attractive, yet one that does all the possible tricks may just seem desperate. So making it natural and not trying to be funny all the time is one efficient way of making people laugh when they have reasons, not just to avoid embarrassing you.

Laughing all by yourself because of the jokes you make is also not recommended, for the same above made observation. You will be ridiculous and you will force your date feel ridiculous while laughing back at you.

Lucky us that virtual romances can be easily filled with funny emoticons to mimic enthusiasm and amusement? Not really, but this is not necessarily something to scare us – as long as we keep things natural, casual and relaxed, it should not be the case.

A final observation would be that success rate is also increased when you observe, understand and then manage to imitate or just upgrade your online date’s humor. Making the type of jokes that the other one would do makes you intriguing and if you are not suspected of copying, chances are of being suspected a compatible match – “Oh, look, we laugh about the same things, don’t you find that interesting?”.

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May Bank Holiday 2012 – Anyone Special In Your Life To Share It With?

Posted on May 3, 2012 by Mihaela

May Bank is a holiday that needs no introduction to all the British people that have been celebrating it for the past 2000 years. Everyone anxiously expects the first Monday of May as it announces the beginning of summer and promises loads of fun and traditions to enjoy.

While children are happy to miss a school day, adults are glad to take a break from work and old people are looking forward to make predictions on how fruitful the new season is going to be, everyone gives a personal meaning to this collective holiday. However, if there is one significance that all embrace it would be the love and romance floating in the air.

All the changes of season together with the giggles and the happiness that traps everyone instinctively make us turn towards the ones we love and want to share special moments of joy with them.

If you are single and you have been looking for some time, chances are you are not very thrilled about this mini-holiday as you wonder with whom you are supposed to spend the weekend announcing May Day.

The good news is that there is more than hope left for you, as there is now a high chance to find yourself a date in your neighborhood, with little efforts coming from your side. Here is where ImYours.co.uk website comes in handy.

Luckily, once you’ve registered for free, your work will consist of making yourself an online dating profile and start analyzing your options! Pick up a catchy username and your best snapshot, think of a few lines that will catch the eye of potential dates and fill in your profile.

With summer arriving and the May Bank bringing us all a prolonged special weekend, May Day has a magical power of filling our hearts with the warm holiday feeling. This entire fuzziness makes us crave for a special someone together with this new beginning. And isn’t it the perfect moment to seek for more than an occasional date – for someone that will stay by your side long after the holiday will be gone?

 

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The Beauty And The Wimp As A Perfect Match In Difficult Times?

Posted on May 2, 2012 by Mihaela

While it is said that women’s tendency of falling for men that rescue them in difficult times is written in their DNA, a new and surprising study makes us all think the problem all over again. After all, it appears that, when things get rough, women are more likely to settle for a gentler men, the wimpier type, turning their backs to the rich and dominant men they would have fall head over heels for in any other circumstance.

With Fay Julal, a psychologist activating at the Southampton Solent University of England, leading the research, the initiative was taken during a perfect socio-economical period: the global economic crisis. A little offensive to assume that women will chose, in terms of adult dating, rich and wealthy men to bring them comfort and safety in a troubled economy, 160 different singles were subjected to a test in this direction.

Prior to the testing itself, the candidates were subjected to a special language test containing plenty of “bankruptcy” related words designed to make them worried about the recession and their financial situation. After that, all of them were invited to surf some online dating websites and analyze the profiles of various men, profiles specifically prepared for this study. Without knowing that most of them were fictitious filled in terms of dominance level and earning potential, women had to decide which of those single men represented the best marriage material to them and who would they simply like to date.

While it was no surprise for women to chose handsome macho men for casual dating, flings or anything else that involved having fun, their preference for wimps as potential husbands actually shocked.

Choosing online dating websites for this purpose was justified as they represented the most accessible way of allowing women evaluate men they would like to date but also offering support for stressing all the individual features of those men that the researchers were interested into.

The reason why the results proved such a discrepancy in terms of no strings attached, casual dating and long term commitments was provided by the women attending to the study alone. According to them, submissive men are reliable, do not have the initiative in taking risks or commands and they also get satisfied by simply accomplishing what they are told to do. All these are supposed to bring comfort to women and less challenges or fears than those that a dominant and hard to control or to keep-at-home man would bring them.

All these can be either interpreted as good or bad news, depending on who receives them. After all, it seems that good looking men who finger play their money and live on high stakes are not fashionable these days and those that were less fortunate with women so far are living their times of glory. And still, it is the duty of every women currently looking for a date on online dating websites to confirm or infirm this theory.

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