• Forget Mr. Right – settle for Mr. Right Now!

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    Every woman wants a date with Mr. Right. Right for what? Right for them, of course. Dating has become a quest for finding the Right man, the one who is perfect for you. It doesn’t matter how much you wait, he is out there, somewhere, thinking why he didn’t meet his half so far… wake up! Waiting for Mr. Right is like chasing imaginary unicorns!

    If you already have an image on who/how your future partner is going to be, you are heading for a disappointment. It’s not a good idea to set up high standards because no one is ever going to reach them and you are just going to go home at the end of the date thinking that ‘he just wasn’t Mr. Right’. I’m not saying you’re asking for the impossible, but I bet there isn’t a single person out there that would fit to your ideal image of the perfect man: he may have some features, but they are usually combined with other ones that you can’t stand.

    If you think I’m not giving your Mr. Right a chance, let’s do an exercise. Take a piece of paper and a pen and describe Mr. Right: put down all his qualities, even his flaws (those which you probably find acceptable or cute), and write whatever important detail you have relating to him. You can even draw his picture if you feel inspired. When you are done, make a fake profile on a free dating site and see how many dates he gets. If you have a comment like ‘you are too good to be true’, then you know where this is going… Try another exercise. Imagine your Mr. Right being the main character in a love story. Is the character reliable? Believable? I doubt it. No one is perfect.

    So instead of waiting for Mr. Right, why not settle with Mr. Right Now? It may not be the perfect man you always dreamed of, but he does have certain qualities that fit the profile (this is why you dated him). Don’t miss out on a good relationship just because the man you are dating is not perfect. I know you are a mature person who knows what she want out of life, but standards change all the time. You might wake up one day and realize that you actually had a potential partner that you dismissed for not being ‘Mr. Right’.

    You need to understand that Mr. Right belongs to the fantasy world, while Mr. Right Now is actually real. This doesn’t mean you should settle for less, it only means that you should give it a try.

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  • Pentecostal Christian Spin on Marriage Part 2

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    Young couples need a spontaneous interest toward the same activities and pursuits both in both secular and religious avenues and, above all, to focus their lives on Christ and the church. Many have discovered that the closing of their lives in Christ and His service has continually drawn them more closely together and has fused their personalities into one. This love ought to be continued in the courtship and in the building of a home.

    For several years now, our homes have been under unusual stress and strain. Many Christian homes have been broken up and many problems have arisen as to how to keep the home above the tide of the times so as to protect and preserve it. The church has a task right at this point and it may be called upon more and more to help as the circumstances of the immediate future present themselves. The training which the young people of the present generation have received will be reflected in the homes of tomorrow.

    A wise marriage is one founded on Christian ideals and principles. If the husband and the wife are both Christians, the life of the home established will run along much smoother than where one or both are not followers of Christ. Furthermore, the children of such a home will have a much better chance of being what they ought to be—believers in Christ and good citizens. A pretty face and popularity will not meet all of the requirements in the building of a home.

    The consideration of others is a basic requirement for a home built upon a good foundation. The home may be regarded as an enterprise just as a business is regarded. No business on earth would ever succeed if the partners were continually trying to harass one another. So it is with the home. There will be times of trial and times of distress perhaps, but if each considers the other and works with that consideration in mind, that home will not break apart. Real and abiding love must therefore be fundamental.

    Co-operation is important in the matter of successfully maintaining a home. Like interests are basic at this point. If both the husband and the wife are active in the work of the local church, co-operation will be present in that phase of activity. Working together in one thing will make for co-operation in other things. If the ideal is to make the home a sanctuary instead of just a service station, then co-operation to that end will produce harmony and accomplishment. Christian marriage is one of the greatest institutions of life. If all marriages were truly Christian, most of the troubles of our society would disappear. But Christian marriage is not limited merely to a wedding ceremony performed in a Christian church or by a Christian minister. It begins with that but goes on throughout the lives of the parties concerned. It is the carrying out of all the Christian principles in a very definite way, for nearly all the problems of society, simple or complex, are represented in family life.

    The family circle is a miniature world and even international affairs have their family counterparts. Selfishness, cruelty and economic problems are found in international, national, state and family affairs. One can begin the practice of practical Christianity at home from every angle. When family affairs are conducted like some international affairs—full of bluff and treachery, there is bound to be trouble. And when international affairs are handled along the lines of a Christian family there will be world peace.

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  • Romantic Ideas for Your Dates

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    Romantic has different meanings for different people. A romantic date does not necessarily mean that it has to be in expensive and in fancy restaurants. It can be anything and anywhere. There are different types of dates that you can find and choose those that are ideal for you and your partner.

    Active dates are those that involve outdoors and adventures. Holiday dates are going someplace with your partner. Other types include cheap dates, dream dates, social dates, travel dates and private dates. No matter which type you have chosen, there are a few options to each of the type.

    The simplest idea is to go out for a nice dinner and a movie afterwards. If this is too classical for you, there are a number of ideas for your date. Go for a hand-in-hand walk. Drive to a beach in the evening, walk hand-in-hand along the beach and enjoy the sunset. You can think of other places where you can spend valuable time with your date. Another one is pack up for a small picnic and spend some quality romantic times together.

    If there are ponds or lakes nearby, drive there and rent a boat. There are only the two of you on the boat in the middle of the lake without disturbances from other people. This is a good way to spend time with each other only. After the boat ride, you can take your date to a floating restaurant for a nice romantic dinner. If you can afford more expensive boat rides, there are boats available for sight-seeing and they provide meals on board.

    It is usually not what you do that matters, but who you are with that matters the most. Find out what are the interests of your date and give her a surprise date. For example if she loves dancing, go to dancing classes with her. If both of you are already good with dancing, take her out to places where both of you can dance, such as restaurants.

    Another way is to stay at home. Rent some romantic or comedy movies and order take-away food. Snuggle together on the couch and enjoy the evening together. If the two of you enjoy a bit of cooking, go to the supermarket together to buy things and cook your own dinner. If there are no nice movies available, grab some CDs and listen to the music together.

    During the weekend, plan for some getaways once in a while. There is no need to go someplace too far or expensive. An overnight camping is one way of spending quality time together with your date in the presence of nature.

    A romantic date does not need to be an expensive one. The most important thing is that the two of you will enjoy the date and have a good time together. It is the feeling that matters. Romantic dates are more meaningful when both of you are having a good time together doing the things that both of you enjoy.

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