First dates are always about shyly exploring an apparently fascinating new territory, possibly dangerous. Both of you will make efforts to look at your very best and say stupid things as little as possible. And in between all the smiles, jokes and struggles of making things right while having a great time, the eternal question is there: what does he/she thinks about me?
The thing is that you will most likely get to hear them long after your relationship will evolve from a simple virtual romance to a long term commitment. In the meantime, you can be sure your partner will not tell you the first worst impressions.
So here are a few hints of what people usually do not tell each other on first dates, for you to anticipate and avoid with both interactions on dating websites and real life dates.
You are driving me crazy with your job
It often happens to those who are either workaholics and accidentally realized that they need to start hanging out with the opposite sex or to people who normally do not have passions or anything else in their daily life other than work, TV and sleep. It can also be a third option – people who are less talkative and have little inspiration with maintaining a catchy conversation – they may also feel comfortable talking about their job. But too much of it will annoy your date. If you get hints like “anything interesting in your life lately?”, you really need to move on to a next conversation topic.
You are driving me crazy with your ex
This one happens to those still frustrated about their last breakup. Keep talking about your ex when you just met someone online will make you look like you are either not ready to get involved in a new relationship or on the verge of developing an obsession. Either way, you must stop it. Maybe your partner will be supportive enough to tell you things like “I don’t mind you talking me about your ex, I’m actually interested in anything important in your life” you still do not have the right to abuse of such a tolerance.
You really seem desperate
Do you seem like you are not going to let your date ever go home? Are you overexcited about your virtual flirts and chats or your first real night out? Then you look desperate, which will tell your date that you have chosen him or her out of desperation, not real interest, and that you will make his or her life a hell by always seeking for attention.
You kind of look a little slutty
With more success odds on people desperate to refresh their love life, looking slutty is often an accident. You are afraid you have little to impress with and start showing more body parts than you should. Maybe you mistakenly spill perfume on you or you use tons of makeup, the thing is you will most likely worry your date rather than impress.