For those in a relationship through an extended period of time, the sex life seems to only get worse and worse. Many couples who have been married for several years can relate to that statement easily. If you find yourself in the same situation, you need not worry. There are steps couples can take to spice up their sex life, whether you have been married for ten years, twenty years, and so on. Sex is an important part of a relationship, and when two are not enjoying sex, there could be some animosity in the relationship. Thus, it is evident to ensure you and your spouse/partner have a sex life, and if not, take measures to “spice it up”.
First and foremost, change up the routine (assuming there is one). If there is a routine, it is important to change it up. Some couples set a time to have sex on a certain day, and this is often due to hectic lifestyles caused by work and such. Try changing up the times you have sex, and you will notice a big difference in you and your partners sex. If you want to take it even farther, try not planning when you have sex. Many partners find sex most enjoyable when it is not planned, and it just happens. This is clearly hard to plan since it is unexpected, so one partner or the other will have to make a move.
Statistics have shown that many partners are starting to try quite a kinky idea; sex in front of a mirror. This allows you to watch you and your partner, and this can be a huge turn on for many. For some, it may not be the best technique, yet others seem to love it. There is no harm in trying, and you may find that it really does spice up your sex life. Some are not as comfortable when they seem themselves, others are more comfortable. It comes down to personal behavior.
Make your sexual experiences similar to betting and gambling. Play a game, and make a deal that the loser has to perform a sexual act that the winner says. Firstly, this will create a bit of kinky competition, and also arouse both partners during the game they play (with all the thoughts of what could happen if they win or lose).
Try different positions. Doing the same position over and over can get very boring, and partners may not be as aroused as they could be. Refer to online resources and books to discover new positions, and test them out. You just may find some positions that you and your partner both love, and this will greatly increase your sex life.
Last, but not least, play with your partners mind. Send them a text message while at work and tell them what you are going to do to them when they get home. Things like this create anticipation, and anticipation creates great sex. Leave them a note on the kitchen counter if you are going to be coming home late from work that day, and tell them what you will do to make up for it.
As you can see, there are many ways for a couple to spice up their sex life. It is a matter of experimenting and observing what works best for you as a couple. Each couple reaches their ultimate satisfaction through different means.