Everyone gets nervous when it is time to go for the first date with someone special that you have just met. For those who have been to dating other people before, this is not a big issue. However, those who have not been to any dates before, the first of the first can be stressful. You might be wondering what to wear, how will the date respond to you during the date and will you ever see her again after this date.
There are a few points to remember on the first date; the dos and the don’ts. Let us talk about the don’t first.
Do not talk incessantly. Give your date some space to talk. It is not cool to talk out loud with overly excited hand gestures. Believe it or not, you do not impress your date; rather you are embarrassing him or her. Talk of topics that both of you are interested in and can talk in. Never talk about things that are of no interest or could be controversial such as politics.
Asking questions always work in getting the ball rolling and as a way to understand each other more. However, do not ask more than you should or else it will leave an impression that you are a busybody.
Do not advertise yourself too much. Some people are too eager to impress the dates that they forgot to be humble. Walking advertisements are not impressive; rather they are a turn-off as no one likes people who boost about themselves too much. During the date, try to understand your date more. For example take notice of him or her, whether is he smiling, happy or uncomfortable.
It is always good to polish up your skills on striking or switching conversations. Once you notice that the date is going to sleep with the current topic, switch to another topic. It is best to talk about things that are funny.
One very important don’t is do not lie. The date will be able to tell if you are lying or not, whether on the spot or later. Furthermore, one lie will lead to another to cover up the first lie. So, be honest. You will leave a bad impression from lying.
As for the bills, if you are the one asking the other person out on a date, it is best to pick up the bill by yourself. At least for the first date, do not let the other person pay for the bill. It is a simple courtesy. However, if the other person insists on paying, split the bill into half. Do not let the other person pay all of it when you are the one asking her out.
Well, if everything goes well and between the two of you, a hug and a kiss on the cheek at the end of the date is sufficient. Do not go into deep kisses on the first date as this will only make things worse and you might never see her again. After a couple of dates, it is safe to kiss her as this is an indication that she is interested in you.