Researchers all over the world call it the “7%-38%-55%” rule and assign it to a worldwide famous Psychology professor, Albert Mehrabian, who came to a conclusion currently accepted by all scientists: the “total liking” that someone can benefit from interacting with another person is the sum of “verbal liking 7%”, “vocal liking 38%” and “facial liking 55%”.
Easy to guess, when dating online, at least with the first chats, you only benefit from those 7% of potential liking regardless how many photos you have uploaded on your profile. This happens because you evaluate your interlocutor upon all the observations combined, therefore seeing one’s face in a photo is very different from seeing that person’s face while developing a conversation.
Considering that it is hard enough to make yourself accurately perceived and avoid misunderstandings with virtual interactions, embracing the wrong attitude would not make you even more harm? Below presented would be some potential pitfalls that you can get into, whenever interacting on social networks, regardless if you are interested in finding love, making friends or just having some free casual fun.
Up or Down
It is healthy to think positive about yourself and avoid negative self-appreciations. However, thinking too much about yourself or too little makes you bad publicity. So avoid sayings like “immaculate appearance” even if you think you look gorgeous or “out of shape” even if you are overweight. Balance is everything and you do not want to be perceived neither as obsessed about yourself, nor as with serious self-esteem issues.
Whatever is fine to me
Supposing you are asked what romance means to you and you say “Everything is romantic when I am with the one that I love” it is just like saying “Whatever”. Instead of answering with something that really represents you, you chose something too general, potentially indicating your lack of interest, your lack of fantasy or your lack of strong personality. None of them are good; use your brain to say things that individualize you.
Showing off with your money
This will help you catch one’s eye, yet probably not the one you were hoping for. Whenever you upload photos with you in fancy restaurants and clubs or when you present yourself as successful whatever, you risk attracting the wrong kind of attention.
Showing off with your boobs
… or with any other hot body part of yours. If you are really looking that good, everyone will notice in no time, without you making extra efforts. Just remember that any sexual connotation on your profile description, profile photo or first conversations will rather create you the image of an easy to serve fling.
Here is what I want
What you want should only be suggested, not specifically presented. If you keep insisting with the “I want” you will end up just wanting, not having. So refrain from emphasizing the expectations you have about your online date, just go with the flow. You will soon find out just how much you can get when leaving aside your initial expectations.