Online dating used to be more about just connecting with a special person, which, in real life, will most likely never step into your favorite local bar, and have a nice chat to make the two of you set up a real date on that bar or anywhere else. But with the current technological developments, internet encounters can more easily develop to internet romances, mostly because of webcams and the video calls that can be performed through them.
Some people, particularly those looking to take advantage of the intimacy and relaxation that this type of dating provides, will be hardly convinced about the necessity of exposing themselves on a webcam. While it’s easy to just chat when sitting on a pile of clothes thrown all around, with a shaggy hair and only wearing a bathrobe, at some point you will have to hide all these under the carpet and reveal a more tidy and charming you – on a webcam.
Why using the webcam while dating online
Webcam is about watching the other one and being watched. Visualizing a person at the very moment when you make a joke, ask a question or make a demand will give you a lot more hints on whom you are talking to. Additionally, it will make the whole conversation easier, less misleading and more entertaining.
Linguist researchers established that every message we intend to send is made of 7% verbal information, 38% vocal and 55% facial. Otherwise said, if you prefer just chatting, you only have access to delivering and receiving approximately 7% of the message. Phone chat or online calls help a little, but the aspect pondering the most is represented by your body language. And since body language is interpreted as a whole, you cannot take it from photos, but from live interactions. If you’re not to the point when you are sure about wanting to meet that person, a webcam is the best thing to convince you either take it or leave it.
How to use the webcam for online dating
From the moment when you decide to give someone permission to view your webcam it is only up to you how much you are willing to reveal from yourself and from everything surrounding you.
However, you should:
Make sure that there is nothing wrong with your looks or with everything surrounding you – no – no to the piles of clothes above mentioned or the unwashed dishes
- Verify for the webcam settings to be right so that no technical issues will make you start the experience on the wrong foot
- Never forget you are being watched so act like you are on a real date – aware that someone sees all your small or big gestures
- Keep both your webcam window and your partner’s on the desktop so that to check appearances every now and then
- Focus on confidently watching the camera and on what messages you want to send for the rest of the time