“For better for worst…. till death do us part” are some of the fine words contained in the vow of marriage. Couples, usually head over heals in love exchange this vows when getting married and do mean those words at the time, but it is well known that 50% of marriages end up in divorce.
Most of the time, children are involved when marriages or long term relationship break down. After things has been finalised by divorcing or separating, you are single again, soon or late, dating starts to feature on the agenda. Dating as a single parent is quite different from when you were single without any ties.
Women are not always the one with custody of the child or children but in majority of cases they are, so this article is primarily written for the single again woman with children.
A lot has not changed in the dating scene since you were last dating, in terms of the kind of man or woman you want to meet, you know yourself best and you know the kind of attributes you are looking for in a partner, the only big question is, where to meet that kind on man?. On the front of where to meet the right partner, a lot has change. In addition to the traditional meeting places such as bar, discos, parties and so on, there is now online dating.
Online dating particularly suit the single mum, you do not have to worry about arranging baby sitting, you just need to get to your computer, get online once the children are tucked in bed or when they are way with friends, log in to you favourite online dating site and start looking for you potential partner.
If your preferred way of meeting a new date is one of the good old fashion ways, then just arrange to go out with your friend or friends in the evening or at the weekend, you know you locality well, the choice of where you go is down to you and your friends.
The most important part of this article is actually to do with safety of you children once you start dating again, you are an adult and can look after yourself, however it is important that you do not expose your children to potential danger with the new person in your life. The simple guidelines below will hopefully keep you informed and help you keep your children safe.
Single mum dating guidelines
- Introduce the new man to your children as just a friend initially.
- Take your children’s opinion into consideration before getting deeply involved in a new relationship.
- The new man cannot be a replacement for the children’s dad, do not try to turn him to one.
- Do not pressurise your children to like someone they may not like very much.
- Once your new relationship is getting stronger to the extent that the new man in your life is spending the night in your home, consider doing a CRB check on him.