Crossing Borders and Mixing Cultures

Crossing Borders and Mixing Cultures

Crossing Borders and Mixing Cultures


The ‘physical’ border between two countries can be defined as a center-less space of oppositions. However, within this real space, exists an ‘imaginary’ border between different nationalities, cultures, and even, a continuous shifting of roles and/or identities, causing the person to take on a chameleon-like lifestyle to fit into that particular setting and culture, where someone is located in that moment. For some people, it is as if it were built-in to our DNA to explore new territories, to move from one place to another, to take-on new identities and languages. Moreover, in modern times, the Internet and software programs like Skype have made it easier for complete strangers to meet on-line and then possibly get together in-person, whether it be for a business meeting for work or just to generally see if it could work-out between the both of them as a couple. Additionally, with the advantage of cheap flights for travelling to and from each other’s countries, it is not as difficult to “break” these borders that divide our continents in the first place.

Ups and Downs of Long-Distance Dating:
Long-distance relationships may not have the same success rate as in-person ones, but that doesn’t mean that they can be as compelling and romantic as an ordinary one. However, these types of relationships can be quite challenging, require an open and positive mindset, and obviously need an abundance of emotional patience. For some people, a beautifully written, hand-mailed letter, an intriguing and conversational chat on Skype, or a monthly, passionately perfect meeting in person may be enough to get them by, but those lonely moments when absolutely no one is around are always heart-wrenching.
Some important benefits of any long-distance relationship offer the ability to genuinely enjoy every moment when together in-person. Another benefit, which is always necessary, is to take a deep breath and have the freedom to make little decisions by yourself, without having to consult with your partner. Another advantage is that annoying, daily habits don’t bother you as much because they don’t occur every day. Obviously, a serious relationship has its boundaries and restrictions, but these types of relationships are liberating and inspiring due to the habitual absence of your partner. In this way, it’s like love at first sight all over again every time your meet at the airport, and in some cases, the butterflies will never stop fluttering their wings.
However, on the other side of the spectrum, the chance that a long-distance relationship not working out is also very possible. Firstly, there is obviously much more of a challenge geographically speaking since the distance between the two partners is always a problem. For some, a daily phone call or video chat isn’t enough. Some people must have their other half present so that the relationship is meaningful and successful. Technology has come a long way with its advances, but it is very difficult to express and show emotion when it comes to text messaging or chatting, and even though video calling or Skype is very common, it is quite depressing not being able to interact with each other physically while merely talking about how you’re feeling at the moment and what you would like to do. In the end, this class of relationship demands a great amount of effort from both parties as well as emotional strength so that both lovers can wait out the next, anticipated encounter.

Making it Work regardless of those ‘Borders:’
In order for a long-distance relationship to thrive, it is necessary that what you feel for each other is 100% real; the butterflies can never fly away. It doesn’t matter if you haven’t met in-person yet because that time will come, or if you have and are waiting on the next meeting. These sorts of genuine feelings of love, desire, faith and positivity will help you to overcome most of the common issues with the distance between by making you feel closer. Intimate and honest emails are always crucial because you can let go of yourself and write exactly what you’re feeling and thinking in that moment.
Additionally, it’s always best to stick to the truth, especially if you haven’t met you supposed lover because it’s would be very disappointing to make all the preparations to meet in-person, and then have to explain why you’ve been making-up stories instead of just revealing who you really are. Also, a hand-written letter or a hand-wrapped package with small surprises sent by mail to your lover is always a plus. Even though it may be old-fashioned, the feelings of excitement to receive something in the mail addressed to you, especially from someone you care about dearly, never fails.
It’s also important to always keep your head up and be optimistic no matter what everyone else says. You know how you both feel about each other, and sometimes, others that don’t share this special, long-distance bond don’t understand your connection or can make you doubt about what your better half is doing across the border. One way to prove that your relationship and deep feelings are real is to leave one or two days in the week that you don’t communicate at all. In this way, if what you have is real, you will truly miss each other’s voice and news of the day, and if not, it will be your sign to possibly end your relationship.

Challenging Decisions and Necessary Sacrifices:
Long distance relationships, at times, will cause difficult, life-changing decisions, hence creating tons of sacrifices. For example, if one person lives in Argentina and the other lives in The United States, and you both want to get married and start a life together, you will both have to decide where this life with children, jobs, etc. will be. Giving up your family, friends, culture, language and everything that comes with your home country can destroy a person emotionally, but if the love and commitment prove to be as loyal as you both claim, then you will have to choose the place that is better for not only the both of you, but for your future family as well. It’s best to discuss this topic early in the relationship or once you know that marriage and children are in the picture. In the end, if leaving your country behind is impossible for the both of you, then you’ll have to find a midpoint or somewhere where you both agree on to live together.

Pure Excitement with Long-Distance Relationships:
Even though long-distance relationships have their downfalls, they never lose their element of surprise or feelings of absolute ecstasy. They can be an excellent self-esteem booster when it comes time to get together because you need to look your best. You could also learn to appreciate the small, insignificant details of life, even with the simplicity of “hello, I’m so glad to see you.” However, if your imagination isn’t equipped for this type of relationship, long-distance relations could become a total disaster. Consequently, for those in favor, borders will never be a conflicting factor. Additionally, once the game of waiting is over for the moment, and you finally see each other at the airport from a distance, the butterflies will begin to flap their wings again, and their invincibility to keep on flying is impossible to shatter.

Author’s bio: SovietLover is a freelance writer based in United States who has researched several dating sites for women since 2005 and participated in the development of several dating events to share experiences and knowledge. He is a keen reader and article writer at Sovietmate Agency (and online CIS dating site), where he wrote several articles about long distance relationship. When he has the time, he enjoys riding bicycle and swimming. He can speak and write English and Spanish languages.

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Christmas tips for those dating an Austrian, Spanish, Norwegian or a French person

Mistletoe Kiss

Mistletoe Kiss

Are you dating someone from a different nationality? We all know that opposite attract, however a multicultural relationship can itself be a proper challenge. Christmas is just around the corner and perhaps it´s the perfect time to get to know a bit more about his or her culture – especially if your partner wants to introduce you to the family! Because multicultural couples are becoming increasingly more common in our society (there’s nothing better than showing him or her that you care about his or her traditions), here are some tips for those who have just met that special person from a different country.
Merry Christmas!

Austria
Austrians celebrate this time of the year in a very unique way. For instance, they don’t decorate the tree until Christmas Eve, so remember not to pressure them… If you want to impress your Austrian partner, you only need to buy a chocolate advent calendar, or even better have a go and try to bake a delicious Sachertorte cake, the most popular cake in Austria since 1832.
Extra tip: Try to find the most special Christmas market in your city and organise a romantic evening drinking gluhwein, a traditional Austrian drink of spiced wine served warm. Your partner will love it!
What to say: Frohe Weihnachten!

Spain

First of all, you need to remember that Spaniards love to spend time with their families, especially on nights such as La Nochebuena (Christmas Eve) on the 24th and the Reyes Magos Day on the 6th January, when they eat the famous Rosca de Reyes a ring shaped cake with little surprises inside.
Extra tip: If you are spending New Year’s Eve with your Spanish partner, please don’t forget to offer him or her 12 grapes. You will find out why in this Christmas infographic from Expedia.

Spanish Xmas

Spanish Xmas

What to say: Feliz Navidad!

Norway

Norwegian Christmas - God Jul!

Norwegian Christmas – God Jul!


Don´t be surprised if your partner wishes it will snow during the Christmas holidays, as for Norwegians, snow makes this celebrations even more magical. If you both spend the 24th together, make sure the popular rice porridge called Julegrot is on the table, which hides an almond in the mix.
Extra tip: Do you want to surprise him or her? Don´t hesitate to invite your partner to watch Grevinnen og hovmesteren (Dinner for One), but make sure you do it on the 23th!
What to say: God Jul!

France
Along with Spanish and Italians, French people love food and Christmas is the best excuse to enjoy lots of delicious foie grass, lobster and of course the popular Bûche de Noël. If you are spending this festive period together, please don’t forget to buy at least a bottle of Moet Chandon; French can never have enough champagne…!
Extra tip: Don’t forget to send him or her one carte de voeux, but remember you have to wait until Christmas is finished…
What to say: Joyeux Noël!

Article contributed by By Marta López

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Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid

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Online dating is supposed to be the next evolution in human interaction. If you watch any commercial for companies like eHarmony or Match.com, they make it seem like such a breeze don’t they? Two people meet for the very first time and they go on to have a wonderful date while laughing all the way. But in real life, you have to get through several stages before you even reach the point of meeting face-to-face. There simply are no guarantees and online dating is basically what you make of it. Sure it can work out great and you might end up with your soulmate, but you could potentially work yourself into all types of problematic situations as well. While it’s good to be optimistic, you shouldn’t go into any online dating situation thinking that all of the work is done for you. You’ll have to think on your feet and trust your instincts while avoiding some of these common mistakes.

 

Picking the Wrong Site – there are plenty of websites out there but almost all of them are different in some way. Even if some of the features are the same, it’s unlikely you’ll find the exact same user base. You have to think about what you want from your online dating experience and then pick a site to match. For example, if you just want to see what’s out there while testing the waters than something free like Plenty of Fish will work just fine. But if you’re looking for something more serious than a site like that might just seem like a waste of time. In general, free sites serve their purpose but they can also turn into something resembling social networking. For a real relationship where two people are on the same page about the future, you might have to pick something that requires a monthly subscription.

 

Lying in Your Profile – everybody fudges the truth a little bit when they come up with their online profile. But don’t make the huge mistake of lying completely about important details. Remember, you’re going to meet the other person anyways and there’s no way you can hide the truth forever. Even if it’s something as simple as your age, be honest from the start to avoid future complications. The same goes with the picture you choose to attach to your photograph which should obviously be authentic. How would you like it if you showed up for a date with someone who is five years older and 2 feet shorter than what you thought? You wouldn’t like it very much and there’s no reason why you should do that to anyone else.

 

Falling in Love with Emails – there’s no doubt about it, it’s an incredible thrill to get attention from someone else. And after a few e-mails you might feel a deep connection like you’ve never experienced before. But take a step back and put things into perspective. A lot of people fall in love way to quickly, and it’s more the idea of the other person than the person themselves. Don’t be embarrassed if this happens because it’s a common phenomenon, but you also have to be careful that it doesn’t lead you into precarious situations. Remember, no matter how much you e-mail or message back and forth it will pale in comparison to what you can learn from one face-to-face meeting.

 

Taking Things too Personally – sorry, but rejection is a part of the online dating world two. While commercials might make it seem like you don’t have to face rejection ever again, that’s simply not the way things work. And it doesn’t hurt any less when it happens online either, and it can be just as surprising as in real life. The most important thing is to keep on trying even if people aren’t responding to your profile. Sometimes it’s just a matter of timing and in other cases you might have to make a few tweaks to your approach before you can find success.

 

Not Trusting Your Instincts – if it seems too good to be true, it invariably is when it comes to Internet and online dating. That’s why you should take things slow enough to let your instincts kick in in case something is wrong. There are plenty of people who aren’t telling the truth and some outright scammers out there. This isn’t an exact science and there are no love spells that will guarantee success, so you have to be on your toes at all times while putting trust in the right people. You have more intuition then you realize and it’s essential to keep your eyes open to protect your safety at all times.

 

About The Author:

Jane Smith is one of the contributors and editors for Loveawake.com where you can find more information on the world of romance and even more handy online dating tips.

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Halloween in Paris: 5 places lovers should visit

Halloween in Paris

Halloween in Paris


Paris is one of those places where Halloween is a smaller affair than it is in places like the States or the UK. However, that’s the reason why the French capital is the perfect destination for those who have just met each other and look for a special trip away. The City of Light hides loads of stories behind its museums, attractions and parks. From its mysterious and romantic cemeteries to the terrifying Catacombes based in the south of the city, Paris welcomes couples looking for cultural options and a high dose of passion. Forget about pumpkins and experience a city where its own mysterious history will be enough to make you feel scared!

1. Parc de Buttes Chaument
It’s the perfect place to enjoy a picnic in the summertime. However, this beautiful and huge park based in the East of Paris hides a dirty and horror-filled past as well as hundreds of souls surrounding the area – this is because during the 13th century it used to be the venue for hanging. Today it’s the fifth-largest park in Paris and it’s an amazing place for lovers to chill out in the middle of nature. Remember the park is based on a prominent hill so don’t forget your camera. You can take lovely pictures of the two of you with one of the most beautiful views in Paris!
Le Parc de Buttes-Chaumont: 1 Rue Botzaris, 75019 Paris

2. Cemetery of Père-Lachaise

Pere Lachaise

Pere Lachaise


It’s still an operating cemetery and it’s also the largest one in the centre of Paris – according to official website of the city of Paris, one million people have been buried there. Walking along the graves in the afternoon can be a good way to get to know each other while sharing your thoughts about life. Pere Lachaise is probably one of the most romantic corners in Paris. It was for that reason that one of the shots in the film Paris Je t’aime was set here. Top tip: Don’t miss out Edith Piaf’s grave!
Père-Lachaise cemetery, 16 Rue du Repos, Paris

3. Les Catacombes
Located on the 14 arrondissment, they are the most eye-popping sights of Paris. The Catacombs represents a network of labyrinthine tunnels that now house the remains of over 6 million burials, removed here from the various cemeteries in the city. When you visit this place, you will easily transport yourself to the realm of Death – at the beginning of the tunnel there’s even a message that says in French “Arrête, c’est ici l’empire de la mort”. The atmosphere there is suitably morbid, so it’s definitely worth a visit. There’s no other place in the city where you could hold your date’s hand so easily!
Les Catacombes: 1 Avenue du Colonel Henri Rol-Tanguy, Paris

4. Disneyland Paris

Disneyland Paris

Disneyland Paris

Since the 5th October, Disneyland Paris has been running special events for the most terrifying time of the year. Don’t hesitate to come if you both fancy a bit of fantasy. Here you can spend the whole day laughing like kids and of course, taking pictures with the Disney team! For accommodation options, you won’t have to go back to the centre of the city. Check out hotels in Paris near Disneyland with Expedia and discover the Disney experience by night.

5. Le Musée de la Curiosité et la Magie
That Paris is a city of museums is something that we’ve always known – but did you know there was a museum exclusively dedicated to magic? In the heart of Les Marais, the museum of the Curiosity and Magic sits in the 16th century cellars below the former estate of the Marquis de Sade. Here you can find all sort of devices used in illusions and tricks that will help you to have a fun time while trying to impress each other. If you fancy a drink after the visit, you´re in the right place! Check out La Belle Hortense (31 rue Vieille du Temple), a very trendy wine bar-library in the area. Try to pop in before 8pm as it gets really busy even during the week.

Le Musée de la Curiosité et de la Magie: 11 Rue Saint-Paul, Paris

If this is your first time in Paris with your partner, there’s still another place you should visit. In the heart of the bohemian Montmartre there’s a stop called Le Mur des Je t’aime (The wall of I love yous) where you will see the expression “I love you” 1000 times in more than 300 languages. Could this Halloween be more magical?
Place de Abbesses,Montmartre, Metro: Abesses.

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