How to Keep the Romance of Valentines’ Day Throughout the Year?

Posted on February 19, 2013
Keep your romance alive after Valentine

Keep romance alive even after Valentines’ day

It can be stressful preparing for Valentine’s Day with the one you loved. Choosing chocolates, picking flowers, getting restaurant reservations, and deciding on activities for the most romantic night of the year can take a lot out of any man or woman. One way to relieve a lot of that stress is by making sure your spouse or significant other feels the same kind of love all year long, then on Valentine’s Day all you have to do is amp it up a little to make the day special.

Plan regular, romantic outings with the one you love. This can be done weekly, monthly, or even just sporadically as a surprise. Take your significant other to the place you first met as a surprise, and re-create your first date together for a super-romantic option. Or, plan something simple. Just go to a movie together, followed by drinks or dessert. Everyday activities are fine, such as dancing, enjoying a concert, or even window shopping on an afternoon out, as long as you two are together, and alone, regularly.

Another way to show your undying affection throughout the year is with little surprises. Send flowers to your wife’s or girlfriend’s workplace, “just because.” Make sure there’s no special occasion tied to the flowers being sent so she never expects it. She will be the talk of the office, and so will you as a wonderful other half. Women can surprise their men as well – just not with flowers. Send a box of nice cigars, balloons, a present (maybe relevant to work or hobby), or even a box of cookies, fruit or snacks that he could share with others in his workplace, if he chooses. Either of you can just make your other half a special lunch full of extra things with a sweet romantic love note just to brighten their day.

If your budget is tight, you can still show your love. Surprise your significant other with a home-made dinner at your place, complete with table settings and candle light. Greet your mate at the door with his or her favourite drink, then enjoy a meal together complete with soft music in the background and warm conversation, call it a date night and make an effort.

Even everyday activities can be made romantic. Instead of popping a movie into the DVD player and settling in for the night in two different chairs, playing on mobile phones or tablets, focus on one another. Make a weekly, electronics-free date night where you choose music to listen to or even playing scrabble or a board game to do something a little bit different together. It is important to share experiences with each other alone to rekindle the spark your relationship had in the beginning.

Trying something new can be a great way to spend some time together and share fun experiences. If it is something you are both novices at then this is better you will be learning from each other and your experience at something new together will help you bond. Try attending a new class together like golf for beginners, car engine workshops, art, music or drama. Just for fun and the thrill of finding new things to talk about, try and possible enjoy together.

Finally, there are the “big ticket” items – the things you can do if you have a little money to spare. Lavishing your loved one with gifts constantly will take away some of the surprise effect, but it’s something you should do occasionally, if you can afford it. Surprise your wife with a necklace she has been eyeing in the store, just because it’s Wednesday. Give your husband a nice wallet, watch or cuff links. Experiences are also good. Whisk your lover away to see his all-time favourite sports team play and stay in a hotel, or take her to the spa for a weekend getaway.

With some planning and a little bit of effort, your loved one will know he or she is loved all year. Valentine’s Day will then just be the icing on the cake, and a lot of the pressure involved in that special day will be removed once and for all.

Author bio:
Rebecca is a fashion student who has aspirations to design her own wedding gown collection and run her own specialist wedding boutique. To look perfect on Valentine’s Day, consider hiring a Fashion Consultant or to help you create the perfect proposal consider one of these exquisite diamond rings from Samara James Jewellers to pop the question with.

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Pacing Your Gift-Giving In Relationships

Posted on June 29, 2012

Gift Giving in Relationships

Gift Giving in Relationships


One of the more difficult things to gauge when you are dating is what gifts to give, and when to give them. Of course, every relationship is different, and how serious you are, and how quickly your affection grows, is dependent entirely on you and your partner. But there are a few general rules that are good to follow, in terms of not trying to advance things too quickly. Many relationships become complicated early on because one partner is more serious than the other. One of the ways that you can avoid this sort of problem is to simply be careful about the messages you are sending with your gifts. Here are a few suggestions.

To begin with, treat early anniversaries very lightly. This isn’t to suggest that you should ignore them, or that you shouldn’t be romantic – but going too far over the top for a one or two month dating anniversary can definitely send the wrong message, and even scare your partner away! Again, the specifics depend more on the nature of your relationship, but for an early, playful anniversary try to keep things thoughtful but simple – perhaps some flowers, a nice date night, or something inexpensive that you happen to know your partner wants.

Once you have been dating for about 6 months or so, you can begin to classify the relationship as something a bit more serious, and something that is moving more quickly. At this point, whether specifically to mark the 6 month anniversary, or if a birthday or other gift-giving event comes up, you can certainly begin to try larger, more meaningful gifts. At this point, not only will your partner probably be expecting a bit more, but you will also be at a more appropriate point in the relationship at which to display greater affections. When you truly want to give meaningful gifts, it is sometimes a sign that you are ready to.

Finally, there are the gifts that say you’re in it for the long haul. This may be appropriate in under a year, or perhaps if you’re taking it more slowly after a couple of years. That choice is yours. But at a certain point, a serious, binding gift is always a big step in a relationship. Generally, this is a good point at which to consider something like valuable jewellery, or perhaps even something that sends a specific message, like eternity rings at 77-Diamonds. While you may well have given the gift of jewellery before, if you want to give a gift that states your intentions and says you’re serious, upgrading to something truly valuable may be a good move.

Of course, ultimately, the timing and nature of your gifts is entirely up to you. However, this is something that a lot of people in relationships tend to take a bit too lightly, and that can certainly backfire. While there is no need to be paranoid about the gifts you get for your partner, always keep in mind the message your gift sends, in addition to the physical gift itself.

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“About me” Pitfalls – Are You Embracing The Wrong Attitude?

Posted on May 29, 2012

“About me” Pitfalls – Are You Embracing The Wrong Attitude   Researchers all over the world call it the “7%-38%-55%” rule and assign it to a worldwide famous Psychology professor, Albert Mehrabian, who came to a conclusion currently accepted by all scientists: the “total liking” that someone can benefit from interacting with another person is the sum of “verbal liking 7%”, “vocal liking 38%” and “facial liking 55%”.

 

Easy to guess, when dating online, at least with the first chats, you only benefit from those 7% of potential liking regardless how many photos you have uploaded on your profile. This happens because you evaluate your interlocutor upon all the observations combined, therefore seeing one’s face in a photo is very different from seeing that person’s face while developing a conversation.

Considering that it is hard enough to make yourself accurately perceived and avoid misunderstandings with virtual interactions, embracing the wrong attitude would not make you even more harm? Below presented would be some potential pitfalls that you can get into, whenever interacting on social networks, regardless if you are interested in finding love, making friends or just having some free casual fun.

Up or Down

 It is healthy to think positive about yourself and avoid negative self-appreciations. However, thinking too much about yourself or too little makes you bad publicity. So avoid sayings like “immaculate appearance” even if you think you look gorgeous or “out of shape” even if you are overweight. Balance is everything and you do not want to be perceived neither as obsessed about yourself, nor as with serious self-esteem issues.

Whatever is fine to me

Supposing you are asked what romance means to you and you say “Everything is romantic when I am with the one that I love” it is just like saying “Whatever”. Instead of answering with something that really represents you, you chose something too general, potentially indicating your lack of interest, your lack of fantasy or your lack of strong personality. None of them are good; use your brain to say things that individualize you.

Showing off with your money

 This will help you catch one’s eye, yet probably not the one you were hoping for. Whenever you upload photos with you in fancy restaurants and clubs or when you present yourself as successful whatever, you risk attracting the wrong kind of attention.

Showing off with your boobs

 … or with any other hot body part of yours. If you are really looking that good, everyone will notice in no time, without you making extra efforts. Just remember that any sexual connotation on your profile description, profile photo or first conversations will rather create you the image of an easy to serve fling.

Here is what I want

 What you want should only be suggested, not specifically presented. If you keep insisting with the “I want” you will end up just wanting, not having. So refrain from emphasizing the expectations you have about your online date, just go with the flow. You will soon find out just how much you can get when leaving aside your initial expectations.

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Things That Your Date Should Not Or Would Not Tell You

Posted on May 28, 2012

First dates are always about shyly exploring an apparently fascinating new territory, possibly dangerous. Both of you will make efforts to look at your very best and say stupid things as little as possible. And in between all the smiles, jokes and struggles of making things right while having a great time, the eternal question is there: what does he/she thinks about me?

 The thing is that you will most likely get to hear them long after your relationship will evolve from a simple virtual romance to a long term commitment. In the meantime, you can be sure your partner will not tell you the first worst impressions.

 So here are a few hints of what people usually do not tell each other on first dates, for you to anticipate and avoid with both interactions on dating websites and real life dates.

 You are driving me crazy with your job

 It often happens to those who are either workaholics and accidentally realized that they need to start hanging out with the opposite sex or to people who normally do not have passions or anything else in their daily life other than work, TV and sleep. It can also be a third option – people who are less talkative and have little inspiration with maintaining a catchy conversation – they may also feel comfortable talking about their job. But too much of it will annoy your date. If you get hints like “anything interesting in your life lately?”, you really need to move on to a next conversation topic.

 You are driving me crazy with your ex

 This one happens to those still frustrated about their last breakup. Keep talking about your ex when you just met someone online will make you look like you are either not ready to get involved in a new relationship or on the verge of developing an obsession. Either way, you must stop it. Maybe your partner will be supportive enough to tell you things like “I don’t mind you talking me about your ex, I’m actually interested in anything important in your life” you still do not have the right to abuse of such a tolerance.

 You really seem desperate

 Do you seem like you are not going to let your date ever go home? Are you overexcited about your virtual flirts and chats or your first real night out? Then you look desperate, which will tell your date that you have chosen him or her out of desperation, not real interest, and that you will make his or her life a hell by always seeking for attention.

 You kind of look a little slutty

 With more success odds on people desperate to refresh their love life, looking slutty is often an accident. You are afraid you have little to impress with and start showing more body parts than you should. Maybe you mistakenly spill perfume on you or you use tons of makeup, the thing is you will most likely worry your date rather than impress.

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