Drinking On A First Date – A Matter of Image Or Perception?

Drinking On A First Date – A Matter of Image Or Perception?  If you really are serious about dating online, you should be serious about your image as well. While we have discussed so far about how to act during your first conversations, what to say and what to avoid or when would be the right time to take it to the next level, we did not approach a rather delicate matter, the one of a real first dating.

This is not going to be about where you should go out or what clothes to wear. This is about what psychologists consider one of the biggest mistakes that you can do: one or more glasses of alcohol. Either you are a man asking out a woman and suggesting that you could have a few drinks or you are a woman accepting such an invitation, this is the wrong way to proceed. Dinner with a glass of wine is a different thing, yet “Let’s have a beer” – not really!

Some women simply feel offended by such an invitation; others may believe that you want to take advantage of them. And there is even a third category you may not have suspected: those who feel guilty or confused the next day. This last situation is caused by the fact that the next day always seems a little foggy and they start fearing that maybe they sent the wrong signals. Furthermore, they may not even be sure that it was the partner to make it a special date or just the alcohol. This final observation suits to men as well.

With other words, accepting such a first date is not really about etiquette but about your own standards and expectations. The only way to convince you that there is a connection is to establish it with no alcohol vapors at all.

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