Every woman wants a date with Mr. Right. Right for what? Right for them, of course. Dating has become a quest for finding the Right man, the one who is perfect for you. It doesn’t matter how much you wait, he is out there, somewhere, thinking why he didn’t meet his half so far… wake up! Waiting for Mr. Right is like chasing imaginary unicorns!

If you already have an image on who/how your future partner is going to be, you are heading for a disappointment. It’s not a good idea to set up high standards because no one is ever going to reach them and you are just going to go home at the end of the date thinking that ‘he just wasn’t Mr. Right’. I’m not saying you’re asking for the impossible, but I bet there isn’t a single person out there that would fit to your ideal image of the perfect man: he may have some features, but they are usually combined with other ones that you can’t stand.

If you think I’m not giving your Mr. Right a chance, let’s do an exercise. Take a piece of paper and a pen and describe Mr. Right: put down all his qualities, even his flaws (those which you probably find acceptable or cute), and write whatever important detail you have relating to him. You can even draw his picture if you feel inspired. When you are done, make a fake profile on a free dating site and see how many dates he gets. If you have a comment like ‘you are too good to be true’, then you know where this is going… Try another exercise. Imagine your Mr. Right being the main character in a love story. Is the character reliable? Believable? I doubt it. No one is perfect.

So instead of waiting for Mr. Right, why not settle with Mr. Right Now? It may not be the perfect man you always dreamed of, but he does have certain qualities that fit the profile (this is why you dated him). Don’t miss out on a good relationship just because the man you are dating is not perfect. I know you are a mature person who knows what she want out of life, but standards change all the time. You might wake up one day and realize that you actually had a potential partner that you dismissed for not being ‘Mr. Right’.

You need to understand that Mr. Right belongs to the fantasy world, while Mr. Right Now is actually real. This doesn’t mean you should settle for less, it only means that you should give it a try.

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Despite how hurt you may be, the time will come when you want to date again. After a break-up your self esteem may be low and you might be nervous about dating. This is normal for any single parent.
When you feel ready try to get yourself out and meet new people. You don’t need to date anybody but getting to know other people will help you feel more confident with the opposite sex.

Will your children like who you are dating?

This can be difficult but it can be overcome. If the kids are under 6 then it will probably be easier. Teenagers can be difficult especially if they have a strong bond with their mum/dad. The best thing you can do is reinforce that you love them and that the new person in your life is not a replacement for their mum/dad.

Abatement is the main fear any child has when you meet a new partner. Act quickly to reinforce your commitment to them. Tell them they are and always will be your number one priority. You also need to let them know you are entitled to date again and that this is normal.

Best time to introduce your new partner?

This is a common question asked by any single parent. You need to ask yourself – do you see a long term future with the person you are dating? Does your partner see you as long term? You need to look at the relationship and judge whether you should introduce this person. Put your kids first. If you experience any violence or abusive behaviour from your partner then you need to end the relationship immediately. It is the same with drug or alcohol abuse. It is better to finish with that person and try to find somebody more suitable. Don’t take any risks with somebody who is not suitable.

How do you introduce your partner to your kids?

Don’t make a big thing about it. Go for something simple and fun. Don’t put pressure on your partner, that will just make them nervous and the kids will pick up on that. Don’t expect your kids to instantly like your new partner, you may think they are wonderful but your kids may compare them to their mum/dad so don’t expect it to be easy!

Where to go?

What about taking them for a lunch? That will give them a treat and everybody will be able to relax and hopefully make the meeting successful. A walk in the local park may be a good idea, if you have a pet dog take this as well. A relaxing meeting is far more likely to be successful.

This is a very good time to tell your kids you love them. This a time where you need to make your love and commitment to them clear as much as possible.

How to tell you kids you have split up?

This is very difficult. They may have already been upset by you splitting up with their mum/dad and now it has happened again. The best thing is to sit them down and explain everything to them, let them ask questions and answer them as honestly as you can. Let them know it is nothing to do with them and that sometimes this happens in adult relationships.

Guest post by Alan Murray, webmaster of a baby names site. The site has a wealth of information on not just baby names but Pregnancy tips, Breastfeeding and much more.

How to Holiday-Proof Your Relationship

Whatever the time of year, break ups are painful, heartbreaking and hard to deal with. But they’re especially devastating when they happen over the holidays. So why do relationships break down during the festive season. After all, isn’t it supposed to be a merry, jolly time full of love, peace and good will to all men?
Well the answer is that there are actually quite a number of contributing factors. The biggest and most obvious is probably financial strain.
Couples feel obliged to spend on luxurious, overpriced gifts in order to prove to their nearest and dearest how much they love them. Come on girls, we’re all guilty of giving purposely not too subtle hints about the presents that we just have to have, or just casually and repeatedly mentioning the pair of shoes that you happened to see, which by the way would look good with the designer dress that you tried on and absolutely cant live without.
While this may seem harmless, fun and maybe even cute to you, you might actually be putting a lot of pressure on your partner, and although you convince yourself that a new dress is a small price for your man to pay in order to make you happy, what if that dress costs you your relationship.
Christmas and New Year, although a time for celebration can be very stressful, and a lot of pressure is put on our partners to get everything right.
We want them to look presentable and speak well to impress our parents at the family dinner, we want them to come across sociable and laugh along with the jokes they don’t get at our friends Christmas party, and we want them to nod in the right places and look convincingly interested when chatting to colleagues at the Christmas work do. If they don’t all hell breaks loose.
What you have to remember is that Christmas doesn’t revolve around you. It is a time when the whole family gets together. So apart from you, your boyfriend is thinking about getting the perfect present for his sister who just had a baby, a thoughtful present for his mother who he wants to show his appreciation for and a useful gift for his grandmother who he guiltily, rarely sees. Now for us ladies not only is this very easy, it’s also fun, after all it’s just another excuse to shop. For men it’s not so enjoyable and it can actually be strenuous and exhausting. Adding pressure to your man by insisting that he do all these things just pushes him away, takes all the fun out of the holiday and can lead to a break-up.
So how can you holiday proof you relationship, and ensure that you see it right through Christmas, soar past New Years and beyond. Here are 5 easy ways to make sure you’re not sobbing over heartbreak and comfort eating on turkey when you should be enjoying the special day that ‘tis Christmas: